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This is not a pity party. This is a warning. I just got done speaking with a friend that I thought I had merely made a passing joke to via text. Well he didn't take it that way and with recent events as they are I fear that my lack of foresight has broken this bow of friend ship.

Mind your words. Everyone . good day.

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Hopefully he'll have a change 'o heart.  May take time.  Hope for the best.

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I hate that for you, I have a bad habit of that myself.

My wife constantly reminds me that I’m not as funny as I think I am...ouch, that hurts even repeating it

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Maybe things will get better over time.
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We all make mistakes. Reach out to your friend and make a sincere apology and I think things will work out for you.
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From my point of view, if that's all it took to end it, id wonder what kind of friend I thought I had to begin with.

I hope that it all works out soon and things turn around.
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Yep.. been there and done that a lot of times,  unlike Mr. King, I dont know when to shut up. But that's me and I like me.    ...OE
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My dad always said, “People will get mad and then they will be glad, just give it time.”
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Words said in jest can indeed ruin friendships.
Comments I made on this very forum to one member were taken literally by someone I respect and admire. Things went downhill from there and needless to say I ended-up on that bowyers's "naughty list".
Don't feel bad Tim, my wife (and quite a few others in my life) does not get the beauty of sarcasm...What a shame not everyone can be as witty as we are... [rolleyes]

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It seems many of us have the same affliction, its probably why I don't have a lot of close friends. My mouth has gotten me in hot water more than once, but that's me and at my age I doubt it will change,

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I had some very trying years after my strokes of 2001-2003. I left out very important words, substituted words, made up words and mixed words. I thought what was coming out of my mouth was what I meant to say but it wasn't at all. So, caused so much greif that I just shut up for about 5 years and only talked to my immediate family members. It took a lot of praying to get things in a better state of talk but I still "loose" words, even my own kids names etc. My writing via electronically is doing better, I still have to go back and fix words, add words and make sentences look good. I usually have to fix one to two words per sentence. I can't hand write at all because I don't know what I will write. So I try to make sure people know that I have my struggles with my speech at times. It is amazing how one little word that you left out totally changes what you thought you said.  When I get the "look" from the wife or others, I ask what I just said and am usually correcting it. Nothing like having to "fix" things with your wife because of it. But it could be a whole lot worse and has been, so you learn to focus on what you can do and not what you can't do. and be thankful for what you can still do. 
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My natural reasoning process plus the way that I express my thoughts have always insulted, offended, enraged, or generally angered most others without any conscious effort on my part to intentionally do so.  I guess it more painful for someone who has not encountered those reactions on a regular basis – LOL.


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  I do believe that right now everyone is doing there best to deal with this 19 going on. Some are a little more prickly (that is what my wife calls me when I am short) than others. Some are not being affected to much with this and others are really feeling it.

    Could be your friend is really feeling it......possibly?

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You hit the mark Craig. That is all that needs to be said. Im happy to have met some of you. Im a young wise guy. Got one more year before Im 30.

Take care of your loved ones.


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Same thing can happen by just stating fact or truth.
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It seems many of us have the same affliction, its probably why I don't have a lot of close friends. My mouth has gotten me in hot water more than once, but that's me and at my age I doubt it will change,

Bob


A plus to aging is we often get a pass.  😉

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That's a bummer, SF.  About a year ago, I had a very close friend (I thought) end a multi-decade long friendship because I told a Chuck Norris joke that she found unacceptable.  Yep, a Chuck Norris joke.

It still makes me sad, but Thumper is right:  If that's all it took to end it, the friendship probably wasn't as deep as I thought it was.

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I told a Chuck Norris joke that she found unacceptable.  Yep, a Chuck Norris joke.


A Chuck Norris joke! Now you're talking some powerful mojo, the label clearly states "Use at your Own Risk" [smile]

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There are few on this site that need the label . strong sense of humor required!
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I’ve said a lot of foolish things in my life that’s gotten me in trouble and I recognize my shortcomings. But folks are a lot different today than they were 30 to 40 years ago. A lot of people now, and not just millennials, seem to look for ways to be offended. It’s like people went from the disposable relationship generation (bad to worse) to the, “I will take what you say out of context, twist it around, and use it against you, so I can satisfy my narcissistic self because you offended me and therefore I am better than you”, yep, what ever. Comments made in jest to folks that you feel comfortable enough around to make such comments should not be held against you. But if it’s annoying or offensive you should be given the opportunity to be contrite and they should be gracious and extend forbearance. If they don’t. Then they do not value the relationship beyond what it can do for them. Shallow, selfish, you should not associate with.
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Man, we have so much in common. All my friends, family and co workers just say to themselves " that's just Craig " Sometimes I do feel stupid, but God shaped my personality before my existence
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My motor mouth has caused me some grief over time, but as I get older, I have somewhat reigned it in. I have always tended to speak rather plainly, but in the past, I often refused to accept other peoples' opinions. I was of the position of preferring that people like me but not really caring if they don't. As you might guess, it often turned people off. Now, I am much more of the do-what-you-like-and-I'll-do-what-I-like attitude without being so judgmental. I'm still a long way from perfect, but HEY! I am Scotch-Irish, so I am supposed to be gruff and have a temper. That's my excuse, and I'm sticking to it. Seriously, we all need to pay close attention to how we "debate" issues. Manners and solid facts are the most convincing ways to communicate our opinions. When dealing with friends, we need to realize - before we speak - that our humor may be problematic for others. Steelflight, I sure hope things can be patched up with your friend. I know how you feel, as I have been there, too.
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